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Three Simple Questions To Inspire Further Ownership:
Who’s in my driver’s seat?
What am I doing to get the results I want?
When was the last time I asked for help or accepted help from others?
Who is in your driver’s seat? Are you living life as if you are “along for the ride” or are you at the wheel?
Are you showing up in life bigger than your reasons or do you have a list of excuses for not producing the results you want?
A leader participating in arenas and activities that are big enough for her or him requires help. Saying, “No,” to help is, in my opinion, self-defeating for any leader.
Are you asking for help, doing the research to learn what resources you have access to for sufficient help?
“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” – Confucius
When I am not creating the results I intend I sometimes instinctively want what is not working to be about someone other than me. When I make my results, or the way I think and feel, about another, I am adopting the victim mindset – a mindset supporting “stuckness”. This is the back seat of life. Stretching my line of ownership and stepping back into the driver’s seat is my point of power leading to my desired results.
How often do you hand over the wheel to someone rather than steadfastly following your own map – taking responsibility for creating the experiences and producing the results most important to you?
How often do you make someone else more important than yourself and then play the martyr?
How often do you make excuses, and then buy into them, for becoming a passenger in your own life?
How often do you refuse help when it is offered?
The price I pay for giving up the driver’s seat and refusing help is that I begin to play life smaller and smaller and people offer less and less help. I start feeling small while playing life small without even realizing this is happening. People in my life are watching and sometimes emulate me without realizing this is happening.
I encourage you to ask yourself each these three simple questions from time to time,
Who’s in my driver’s seat?
What am I doing to get the results I want?
When was the last time I asked for help or accepted help from others?
and for your benefit, and for those around you who are inclined to follow your lead (whether you or they realize this), make sure your answers are:
I am in the driver’s seat.
I have no excuses and I am doing what it takes to produce the results most important to me.
I am happy to ask for help without hesitation and I say, “Yes, thank you,” when help is offered.
Those with a 21st Century Leadership mindset:
Take ownership for their results.
Have no room for reasons.
Ask for and accept help.
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