Leadership
Taking Ownership To The Next Level
All of my clients and people who have participated in Extraordinary Learning courses have a firm grasp on what it means to take ownership for their results. While continuing to master their ownership a common question they ask me is, “How do I influence others to take ownership for their results?” Warning: As soon as [...]
My Relationship With You Is All About Me
The quality of my relationship with someone depends on the quality of my relationship with myself. This mindset embodies the essence of my ownership for my experience in life. When I experience challenge in a relationship, my experience has everything to do with how well I am doing physically, mentally, emotionally and/or spiritually. When I [...]
Experiencing Freedom Through Commitment
Many people feel challenged grasping a concept about which I am crystal clear – “Real freedom is found in commitment”. In the absence of commitment, in my uncertainty of what to choose of where and how to spend myself, I feel torn and confused about my direction. While experiencing a lack of direction and focus [...]
Working With People Whose Behaviors I Dislike
Someone recently suggested to me, “I bet you work with people you don’t like and they probably don’t even know you don’t like them.” This is my response: I am connected with my appreciation for people more than I am connected to any resistance. I know we, all humans, have similarities, even when these similarities [...]
The Benefits Of Holding Others As Able
I believe one of a leader’s primary jobs is to grow other leaders. This is accomplished through training, coaching and mentoring, all of which are for naught unless I hold emerging leaders able. With regard to holding people able, too often I see “veteran” leaders jumping in to help emerging leaders who might be slow [...]
Confidence Is Overrated
A long time friend and Twenty First Century Leadership graduate called the other day.
I told him, and I tell all participants in Extraordinary Learning courses and my coaching clients, confidence is overrated….
A Closer Look At My Definition Of Leadership
Leadership may be defined in hundreds of different ways. My definition of leadership, that I promote through Extraordinary Learning is, “Leadership is congruent self-expression that creates value.” What exactly is “congruent self-expression”? Many people confuse congruence with authenticity. Phil and I make a point of differentiating “authentic” and “congruent”. My belief is when people hear [...]
Self Conscious Or Other Conscious?
Many people are at effect of physical discomfort, emotional upset or negative self-talk.
For me, being “other conscious” rather than “self conscious” is the surest way to move past this state. As I use the term, “self conscious” means a preoccupation with oneself at the expense of being fully occupied and present with other people or on other ideas.
Leading Works Better Than Pushing
With fewer and fewer traditional hierarchical organizations and more and more cross-functional teams the norm, relationship based leadership is more critical than ever.
Use All Of Your Strength
Part of what makes a leader effective is the way that he or she addresses inevitable setbacks, downturns, challenges, and “failures”, both professional and personal.